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Thank you! Trauma is difficult to talk about and you have brought in so much light in so few words. Showing us the meanings, sharing the feelings, walking us to the door where healing and forgiveness wait. It is a journey we individually have to take. Whole. Never broken. A body in a soul. Coming home. To Love. Bless you for being brave to lead and wise enough to let go. You make it better. 🙏❤️

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Thank you Jamie. It takes time. And self-compassion. And courage to revisit the pain. But it's the only way to heal. And healing is so much needed in this time, with so much violence and trauma birthing more trauma. The only way to heal trauma is to face it. To embrace ourselves in it with relentless love.

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“The only way to heal trauma is to face it. To embrace ourselves in it with relentless love.”

Isn’t it amazing that we know this now? What a gift. 🙏

Thank you for shining a light into an unlit corner, Veronika.

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You're welcome 💕 I promise it's true.

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🥰✨❤️

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Hi Veronika, thank you for this discussion. I don’t know how l missed this one. I was clearly meant to find it this morning. 💜🙏

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Hi Simone, you're most welcome.

I know, happens to me too. Finding the right things at the right time ~ Synchronosophy, right?

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So thorough and enlightening. You are a find, indeed. I wonder, with your excellent examples here, if there is any way to go through life without trauma. Focusing only on all caps love: Every love story could become a grief story, don't you think? Grief for a loved one who has died is surely trauma and resilience has to be the answer though finding that is a hard journey, indeed.

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I don't think there is life without trauma (perhaps with the exception of the Buddha before he became the Buddha). But I'm not sure whether every love story must necessarily become a grief story. Although trauma is often related to love stories (as it has been in my personal experience), there are many other forms of trauma (loss of a child, violence, horrific accidents etc.) I do believe we all have different trauma patterns, and they seem related to our ancestral histories.

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Profound Veronika, thank you! Personally, I include TV & movies within the 'vicarious trauma' category - it is truly incredible how desensitized humans have become via watching a seemingly continuing barrage of violence

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Thank you Sarah, I fully agree! We haven't had TV for at least 25 years and very rarely watch a movie. The level of violence shown even to children (when we catch glimpses of it) is truly horrific (to me). 'Normalising' the horrors which humans are subjected to by fellow humans... and then talking about the violence of 'terror' and 'war' and 'sexual abuse', as if they were unrelated...

But it's not only the violence. The overwhelming amounts of information and images, which no human mind has the ability to process at the speed of streaming, must be traumatising to everyone. The main definition of trauma, after all, is a sense of overwhelm.

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The journey is a long one -- but I note in myself there is a sense of "Who wants to know a story's end, or where a road will go?" (last line of Sheenagh Pugh's poem "What if This Road"). Strangely, resolving trauma feels more and more like a 'worthy endeavour' than a 'mere necessity'. Another insightful and intriguing posting in the world of Symbiopaedia 💜

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Veronika, what a huge topic to take on. Thank you for the illumination. We are all wounded and I'm guessing our only job in life is to heal from those traumatic moments.

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Thanks Mo! I agree, we're all wounded. It's a difficult topic, and a huge one as you say. I guess nobody takes this one on unless life shoves us in that direction. And I agree that "our only job in life is to heal from those traumatic moments."

On the other hand, the idea of 'healing from trauma as a life's purpose' always felt a little disheartening to me ~ until I found that it's not only about healing ~ but that every traumatic experience is also linked to a hidden personal gift.

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I like that way of looking at it.

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I'm glad trauma is being recognized and dealt with, and hopefully a healthier and more caring society will be the result. It doesn't look like it now, but things can change.

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Thank you Diana. I truly appreciate your reading and commenting here.

I know what you mean. On the global scale, and in statistics of violence and rape it doesn't look like it's changing for the better...

At the same time, the awareness of trauma is changing. In the past people have been divided into victims and perpetrators. Now we know that pretty much everyone is traumatised. We just deal with our trauma differently.

I believe that every individual healing from their own trauma makes a valuable contribution to the healing of collective trauma of mankind. If we can transform our own trauma into authentic gifts, then we can change the world.

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